Friday, October 14, 2016

ChAnGe!!!


It’s so funny how people change. As a kid, you might be happy-go-lucky and not have a care in the world. Then you grow up and you are stressed and worry about everything: bills, kids, school, Presidential elections, car troubles, bad weather, gray hairs, fitting in with the crowd, global warming, and everything under the sun.

I’ve seen so much change in myself over the years that it’s hard to recognize myself. I remember as a teenager hating watching football. I just didn’t get it. I would rather watch the Disney channel. Over the years, I began to understand how football worked (scoring, etc) and became a Seahawks fan, started doing fantasy football, and watching every football game on tv on Sundays, Mondays, and Thursdays.

I also used to hate school. I thought I would never go to college. I thought it was a waste of time. Then I went to Mount Edgecumbe High School and my whole perspective on education changed. 11 years later, I have a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in Education. I couldn’t be more supportive of higher education. I plan on sending all of my children to Mount Edgecumbe and expect them all to get college degrees as well.

I remember enjoying chilly fall and winter evenings: walking around town with my cousin Tami or friends Venessa, Alice, and Alicia. Now I pretty much hibernate once fall comes. My body cannot stand the cold anymore. I get out once and awhile to go ice fishing or for a snowmachine ride, but I prefer to stay warm at home watching football or baking.

I remember thinking that my life would end if change occurred. I thought I was going to marry my first boyfriend. When that relationship ended, I thought my life was over. How naïve was I? My life just started after that ended. I had three beautiful children, went to college, got a nice job, travel when I want, where I want.


Entertainment has changed. Kids used to love playing outdoors all day everyday. Now all they want to do is sit at home playing their PS4’s and Nintendo DS’s. We used to build snowmen and snow caves and rake huge piles of leaves in the fall just to jump into them. We used to gather the chairs from the kitchen to make tents. We used to jump off our balcony of our second story apartment building onto a huge snow pile that was plowed the day before. Now we have to beg our kids to play out.

City life has changed. Kids in cities like Anchorage are no longer able to play out alone in their neighborhoods without fear that they may be kidnapped or killed because the crime rates have gone sky high. There are so many shootings and mass murders in the United States nowadays. I don't remember it being this way. People have lost their sense of humanity. It’s as if people forgot how to be human. Sometimes change is not for the better.
However, sometimes change IS for the better.  I’ve learned that I don’t have to pretend to be someone else to be liked by others. Why waste time on those that don’t accept you for who you are? I’m still learning to not sweat the small stuff. Life is so much bigger than you think. The world will not end if you fail one class. It will go on if you go through a major breakup. It will go on if you lose a loved one. It will go on if you get a bad hair cut or if you gain a lb or two. It will go on no matter what you go through.

Change helps you to become a better person. It helps you to open your eyes and see the world around you. It helps you to understand your purpose in life. Don’t fear change because everyone changes. Opinions change. Styles change. People change.

Friday, October 7, 2016

Dreams


As a teenager I had big dreams… dreams to travel the world, to get married, have kids, and have a good stable job. I knew from the get-go that I would provide for my family. I would be a good role model for the younger generations. If I went to college I was sure more youth would follow in my footprints.

Coming from a poor family has made me have to work harder to obtain my dreams. I had to rely on public assistance at times when I was attending UAA and had my two older kids. I was literally living off of scholarships and food stamps at the time. I remember taking the public bus everywhere since I didn’t have the money to buy a car---not even a used car. In the winter, it was so cold waiting for at least half an hour with two babies under two-years-old. One of them was sure to be crying in the stroller while we waited and waited for delayed buses.

Eventually I was able to save up for a used car off of Craigslist and life was easier. I saved time by not waiting on public transportation and was able to drop my kids off at a babysitter’s rather than bringing them to campus and letting them wait in the hallway with my ex until my class got out.

Now I look at myself and ask “Am I where I planned to be years ago?” Sometimes I think things could be better, but for the most part I have achieved my goals. I received two college degrees, have a good paying job with benefits, have a healthy family, and have a roof over my head. I still want to travel the world, but that can wait for a few years. I’m still fairly young.

Having dreams is important because it gives you a drive for life. If gives you hope for your future. I’m a dreamer. Always will be. Period.